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How to help a mom who is suffering from postpartum depression or anxiety
- Reassure her that this is not her fault and that she is not alone. With help and support, she will get better.
- Encourage her to talk about her feelings. Remember, you do not have to fix, just listen without judgment.
- Make sure she is taking care of herself: eating balanced and nutritious meals, resting when she can and taking breaks.
- Manage your expectations, just because she is home all day or on maternity leave don’t expect her to be super-housewife.
- Be realistic about what time you will be home and make sure to be home at that time.
- Help her find professional support and treatment, especially if things get worse.
Reference: Kleinman, K (2000). The postpartum husband: Practical solutions for living with postpartum depression.
Keep in mind
- You did not cause her illness and you can’t take it away. Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders is a biochemical disorder, it is no one’s fault. No one ever asks to be depressed.
- She just needs you to listen. She probably feels alone and scared right now. Listening to what she is going through and being supportive can be very powerful.
- Take care of yourself too. Often partners can get depressed during or after a partner’s maternal depression. We need to keep you as the “healthy” partner healthy right now.
- Lower your expectations. Even postpartum women, who are not depressed, shouldn’t be expected to cook dinner or clean the house. Remind her that parenting your child and taking care of household responsibilities is your job too, not just hers.
- Let her rest. Often it is harder to deal with things when we have not gotten sleep. Protect her sleep by allowing her to get at least four to five hours of uninterrupted sleep.